Thursday, 22 July 2010

me now

Well I'm off to college in September, am going to miss being a home maker as it feels like that's natural to me. not because i'm lazy but just because i should be there for my daughter and have the house tidy, i really don't understand how people who work do it!! not saying i disagree with them though. and guess i will find out how they do it in September. unfortunately now a days it makes it hard for a women to stay at home and be housewives which is very sad really. for the few women who feel more happy in the house why should they be looked down upon it's a society where we are all have to try for a career women and men and if we say we just want to be home maker we are looked down upon. anyways there's lots of reasons why i choose to go to college. 1 is that my daughters old enough now and I've at least spent the first 3 years with her. 2 i have potential to get a better job and better prospects and maybe better money then my partner, due to age and qualification's. also my partner unfortunately is not doing to well with finding work. he will find work i have no doubt of that as he 's pushed too but at least if i have the qualifications i can find work if all else fails.. okay i'd admit i'm fussy over what job i do. people have said to me people would have work if they wasn't so fussy. but my view on this is, why work if it makes you depressed? if i was doing a job that was boring i would dread going out to work. why should i not follow my ambitions and just give up? i'd be paying taxes and back to society when i get a job. and i won't whinge about it!!!

Wednesday, 26 May 2010

poorly dog

our dog is poorly but getting better. she hurt herself in the garden, she has had an operation and some stitches so we're waiting and hoping she heals soon. she has a cone over her head for now. hopefully my lazy partner can start caring for her alot better and do more work in and out the house. i've started lookng for a part time job as needs some thing more to do as much as i believe it should be my partner working and not me because i got enough on with my daughter,house and the dog. hmm they do say never to work with animals and children yet we have bother of them. guess they're worth it though.

Monday, 10 May 2010

Home maker duties,

i am an home maker. well there was a recently a discussion on my face book about unemployment. and my partner is unemployed it got fairly nasty in the end and the thread had to be deleted.

I realized that some modern day women thought being an homemaker/house wife was boring and all that we do is sit on our bums all day. they was working class mums. i think good on them but the myth that home making is sitting on my bum all day is wrong.

so i though to change this myth i'd list things that i do and put my daily plans on here.

i believe 1950's house wife lifestyle works for me. the house was kept in order whilst the man went to work,the children had a mother around all the time. which i feel my child needs. and if my partner worked i would make him relaxed when he came back home from work with a cup of tea and his dinner. but he doesn't have that privilege as he doesn't work. which does i must admit frustrates me a lot. instead i do have to force him sometime liturgically to help around the house.

My day is usually spent with my daughter, going to sure start and the park. we bake together, and bake our own bread,make pizzas, bake cakes and all sorts. all my bread i make from hand and i have this year started growing a few vegetables. i'm expanding my knowledge on this to see if i can do it every year and get better at it. in the morning i get the breakfast prepared and sometimes cook tea so it's ready for the evening especially if we have things planned in our day, i either do this in the morning or night before. if I've not done it either of those times i cook at about 3pm. i cook everything from scratch. nothing i do is shop brought ready meals. that way i know whats in the food in daughter is eating. i do the washing up,washing clothes and gardening. my daughter helps me with gardening and we plant seeds for flowers and veg together.

I'm not saying this is for everyone and I'm not saying that employed mothers don't work in the house and cook from scratch etc. but this is how i enjoy my lifestyle un till my little one goes to school i will not get a job. as every minute with my daughter is precious.

when i get it arranged I'd put my daily plans on here and rotas as me and my partner are thinking of putting a rota together of what needs doing, doing shopping lists and food rotas of what we're eating.

to me i as a women can not compare myself to a man. men are stronger and are made for working. women in general are more nurturing and made to be with their children or in caring,nurturing jobs and that's why i feel happy where i am. it's just a shame society puts us homemakers down and tries to force women into getting careers. but none of us are told that being an home maker is an option. i'm not by no means saying that men are better then women just that we both have different qualities. to me it's more natural for me to be home with my child then working. when she goes to school and starts to need me less. i may look at getting a job.

some may disagree with my views but that's okay. we're all different and I'm not by any means saying that all women should be like this. times have changed. for the worse unfortunately. the same as there's no manners now a days and people don't respect there olders,communities are divided,the land is used as a rubbish tip, the earth is being polluted etc. makes me sick really. and a lot of it due to greed and materialism. people agree with cheap labor for employers to take advantage of but then they will as just think where their clothes and shoes are coming from. maybe from slavery as some of the big named brands do use slavery.

Tuesday, 4 May 2010

Buddhism and quotes.

I've been reading about buddhism and think it's great. the teachings to me just show how we should be.
Buddhism is about gaining enlightenment, in till someone gets enlightened they are born and reborn again. once enlightened they break out of the cycle of life and re life and go to a place without suffering and with perfect peace. once at this stage it is called Nirvana.
They try to reach Nirvana through meditation which is training the mind to empty it of all thoughts as this will then help important and spiritual things to become clear.

Buddhist don't believe that buddha was a god nor do they worship him as one. they see him as a man, the only difference is that he was an enlightened man who teached others how they too can become enlightened.

these are things buddha tought them.

3 signs of living.
the way Buddha described life

# Nothing in life is perfect. ( dukkha) It includes things like being bored and uncomfortable, and everything which is not satisfactory.
# Everything in life - even solid things such as mountains - is changing, all the time.
# There is no soul. (anatta) Instead, the Buddha taught, what does carry on to the next life is a person's life force (Karma). The Karma can be good or bad, depending on how the person lives in this life.

4 noble truths

First Noble Truth?

Dukkha: Suffering exists:
The first truth is that life is suffering i.e. life includes pain, getting old, disease, and ultimately death. We also endure psychological suffering like loneliness frustration, boredom, fear, embarrassment, disappointment and anger.

WSecond Noble Truth?

Samudaya: There is a cause for suffering.
The second truth is that suffering is caused by craving and the needing to control things. It can take many forms: the desire for fame; the desire to avoid unpleasant sensations, like fear, anger or jealousy.

Third Noble Truth?

Nirodha: There is an end to suffering.
The third truth is that suffering can be overcome and happiness can be attained; that true happiness and contentment are possible. lf let go of our craving and learn to live each day at a time (not dwelling in the past or the imagined future) then we can become happy and free. We then have more time and energy to help others. This is Nirvana.

Fourth Noble Truth?
Magga: In order to end suffering, you must follow the Eightfold Path.
The fourth truth is that the Noble 8-fold Path is the path which leads to the end of suffering.

rules and marols

* Do not take the life of anything living. (Do not kill)
* Do not take anything not freely given. (Do not steal)
* Abstain from sexual misconduct and sensual overindulgence.
* Refrain from untrue speech, (Do not lie) * Do not consume alcohol or other drugs. The main concern here is that intoxicants cloud the mind.

Quotes that i reall liked from Buddha

Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.

Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

No one saves us but ourselves. No one can and no one may. We ourselves must walk the path.

The tongue like a sharp knife... Kills without drawing blood.

We are formed and molded by our thoughts. Those whose minds are shaped by selfless thoughts give joy when they speak or act. Joy follows them like a shadow that never leaves them.

We are shaped by our thoughts; we become what we think. When the mind is pure, joy follows like a shadow that never leaves.

You will not be punished for your anger, you will be punished by your anger.

Sunday, 22 November 2009

Green living

Okay i'm really into the idea of living Green, trying to be self sufficient and all. although i'm in a rented house with barely any money so how do we do it? hmm. well i have started trying to double use bags or getting the stronger shopping bags instead of getting more plastic bags, growing plants, buying from farmers, sawing and natural cleaning,recycling. i've learn't soo many skills these last couple of years living on my own with my partner especially. i've learn't to cook from scratch and about growing different plants, how to deal with the house and garden and all sorts. i've gained soo much confidence through this all and bringing up our wonderful daughter.

Thursday, 19 November 2009

surviving on the dole

Ten tips to survive on the dole
1.never get any loans no matter what. its way easier to save. loans charge lots of interest.if you need one its best to get loans from the job centre then anywhere else at the cheapest shops, look for offers.

3. ebay does some good clothes bundles that can be cheap and also you can sell old stuff to get abit more money. what you can towards clothes and essentials.

5.making home made cleaning stuff or just using white vinegar is cheaper then shop brought and has less harmful chemicials in.

6.making own bread okay this sounds stupid. but it is alot cheaper from my experience its just getting started that cost alot.

7.question the benefits if you feel you're not getting the right amount of money. they are not always right and sometimes mess up. they tried to charge us double on a loan we owed them once soo just watch out and question things.

8. buy christmas presents from poundland or make homemade christmas presents, this may sound tight but if the moneys not there people should be grateful with what they get and understand your situatuation.

9.Take advantage of services offered in the community. etc sure start if you have children under 5,walking groups. keep yourself entertained and maybe do some voluntery work to gain experience.

10. look for work write c.vs get help with gaining qualifications needed.

okay i don't know if this will be usefull to anyone but hey its here lol.

Tuesday, 17 November 2009

my rants about ignorent people

in a ranting mood today okay, well i been reading the papers and comments again and it's really annoyed me that people ashume that people who are unemployed or single parents are all the same. I was reading the article about a lady called rebecca who had left her kids alone whilst she went out taking drugs and drinking and her house was in a state and everything it was a very sad story . well anyway the comments on there seemed to be the working class ashuming that all people unemployed behave in this way and only have kids for money. I know many people who are unemployed who love their kids too bits and would even go without themselves for their kids and i'm one of these people. It annoys me that people make asshumptions and steriotype people in this manner. also for single parents who athe dads walked out on the dad/sperm donner doesn't get any mention almost like yeah its okay for the dad to walk on on the child but no its not okay for the mum to claim benefits, they should dump the kid in childcare from birth and go to work... which too me is stupid. also its not considers that some of these unemployed people may have little or no confidence and self esteem. a big problem for myself. they may have been badly bullied in school and not gained any qualifications or even been given the chance to gain qualifacations. so for all those who moan that their tax money goes to unemployed people i hope that you never have to find out how hard it can be to be unemployed, how hard it can be to find work and how it can break your confidence going to interveiw after interveiw and not getting a job. and thats all for now.